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Dec 10, 2023Liked by SleepyHollow, inK.

I love this topic. I feel like too many women see self-care as something they purchase, a material good or service, when the most basic form of self-care is adequate sleep, nourishment, rest and movement. These same women wear their lack of self-care as a badge of honor, “ I’m so busy, I don’t have time for… “ They are always upset that their self-sacrifice goes unnoticed. Yet they don’t want to change it, because they fully bought into the idea of perforative mothering.

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Dec 10, 2023Liked by SleepyHollow, inK.

I went through a multi-year period of A/B testing and I conclusively proved to myself that being present makes me happier.

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As with all things, the quickest false fix seems purchasable. You're so right. And why is "so busy" such a thing to be so proud of. We're all so busy, or rather, should choose to take more pride in slowing down.

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Dec 10, 2023Liked by SleepyHollow, inK.

I really like the oxygen mask analogy, and I use it all the time whenever I'm talking with someone unfamiliar with the concept of self-love. Great work bringing this out into the light of day!

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Dec 10, 2023Liked by SleepyHollow, inK.

Ladies and gentlemen, she's done it again:

"Once tempest tossed, I can retreat again to finding my fix alone as an insanely productive busy bee, up and down the stairs I spin looking for the next thing to concoct or fix." Wow.

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thank you! (and YOU get a heart). I'm dizzy ;)

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Dec 11, 2023Liked by SleepyHollow, inK.

"The dirty fuel of likes" also deserves recognition, but I can't stop thinking about "Once tempest tossed..."

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I aim now to write a Brian-flagged sentence or two every time.

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Don't succumb to the siren song of likes (or positive comments)!!

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This arrived at the perfect moment. I was debating whether or not to say no to a situation and your words were that instant reminder that it's ok to choose me. It's ok to say no and take care of me and quite honestly, that allows me to be so much better, to enjoy so much more in my life. I'm so grateful that you wrote this - thank you!

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Boundaries, yes! I'm so glad it helped. I say no to so many more things these days and it opens up the room for all the right yesses.

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Dec 10, 2023Liked by SleepyHollow, inK.

Loving these, Krista.

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Dec 10, 2023Liked by SleepyHollow, inK.

Also, 100% agree with you in the teenage selfies. I see young girls doing this all the time and it makes me sad for them. It is so artificial and harmful both

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terrifying!

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Dec 10, 2023Liked by SleepyHollow, inK.

This was a really excellent article I am reading as my flight is taxiing for takeoff on a 14 hour flight, a part of a 24 hour journey from home to hotel.

“I know I have to be the change I wish to seek”. I try to live Mahatma Gandhi’s famous quote everyday. The question is what change do you want to see? For me, it is increased kindness, generosity and acceptance so I try do my part.

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oh my goodness, that's a long trip, safe travels. Glad to help fill the time. And grateful for you my SECOND like ;)

I too aim for increased kindness and acceptance. I need to be less reactive, more still. Present and calm.

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