I think it is interesting that the common definition of introversion is being shy whereas the psychological definition is about being more concerned with one’s own thoughts and feelings. Being quiet or shy is different from not emoting I think. You are so much more expressive now and I doubt people would say today you are hard to read. I am fiercely proud of you for all that you have dared to challenge since I have known you. Few people would have had either the courage or the fortitude.
The shy vs. introverted is so important to note! I am not at all shy. People think I'm outgoing because I can "perform" socializing. But I need to come home to regroup/detox after. I am not the best at sharing this private space to reboot with anyone, so I commend you two for pulling it off!
This is a great conversation! There's a lot to call out, but this one really spoke to me:
"So a lot of our early courtship was about learning to speak each other’s languages, and I had to learn how to communicate with him in a way that he could understand"
This is so important in a partnership (romantic or otherwise), but it's also an excellent way to frame one of our central challenges as introverts: we need to realize that the way we present ourselves is NOT always what folks see!
I'm beginning to think everyone on earth speaks a different language and I could use a decoder (and they for me!). All very true. Thank you for reading/responding as always
Thank you, Krista, to let me take part in Introvert's Outreach! My wheels have been turning since I read through the questions, and I continue to mull what it means to be both a creative and an introvert!
I think it is interesting that the common definition of introversion is being shy whereas the psychological definition is about being more concerned with one’s own thoughts and feelings. Being quiet or shy is different from not emoting I think. You are so much more expressive now and I doubt people would say today you are hard to read. I am fiercely proud of you for all that you have dared to challenge since I have known you. Few people would have had either the courage or the fortitude.
The shy vs. introverted is so important to note! I am not at all shy. People think I'm outgoing because I can "perform" socializing. But I need to come home to regroup/detox after. I am not the best at sharing this private space to reboot with anyone, so I commend you two for pulling it off!
I am an INTJ who can “perform” (love that phrase) as well but it is usually exhausting …. I need the downtime/detoxing too.
amazing that you both have the same MB profile!
This is a great conversation! There's a lot to call out, but this one really spoke to me:
"So a lot of our early courtship was about learning to speak each other’s languages, and I had to learn how to communicate with him in a way that he could understand"
This is so important in a partnership (romantic or otherwise), but it's also an excellent way to frame one of our central challenges as introverts: we need to realize that the way we present ourselves is NOT always what folks see!
Well done, my friends. This is a very good piece.
I'm beginning to think everyone on earth speaks a different language and I could use a decoder (and they for me!). All very true. Thank you for reading/responding as always
We really do. Language is just the tip of the iceberg, I think!
Thank you both for saying this. I really thought I was the only one who feels this way.
Thank you, Krista, to let me take part in Introvert's Outreach! My wheels have been turning since I read through the questions, and I continue to mull what it means to be both a creative and an introvert!
I like to think the introvert and the creative compound together for further greatness ;)